How I approach Counselling

If you give a person a fish, they will eat for a day, if you teach a person to fish, they will eat for a lifetime.  
— Maimonides

This concept is the foundational goal of my counselling practice and our counsellor/client relationship.

As your counsellor, I want you to know that I do not view you as ill, dysfunctional, or requiring “a fix”, but rather as a person who simply recognizes that you do not have the necessary tools required to get to where you want to go next in your life.  Chances are, what brings you to my web page is that you may have seen a pattern or patterns emerge in your personal life or business relationships, but you are uncertain of how to go about changing them.

My counselling practice is based on my belief that all wounds created in relationship must be healed in relationship and also based in science and how the brain is wired.

Much of what we as human beings struggle with is based on the fear of what others will think of us. The deep shame many of us may carry causes us to survive by adopting “parts” that appear to have it all together, so no one will really know how much we are actually struggling and what a fraud we believe are.

There is great healing that can occur when some of these hidden bits come into the light and are met with compassion and understanding. Most important, the compassion you will begin to develop for YOURSELF when you realize that the “parts” that came into being early in your developmental years, have been doing the same things over and over expecting different results.  Counselling  a wonderful opportunity to discover that there is an internal intelligence operating AND that you have skills and abilities that are yet untapped.

My effectiveness as your counsellor also really depends on how clear and clean I am psychologically.  I have  done a great deal of my own personal work which makes me an effective competency based counsellor.  I am journeying with you during your sessions, reflecting back to you what I see and feel as well as teaching you effective tools to navigate the internal struggles you are facing.

You can rest with confidence knowing that I have a solid grounding in life experience, offering you sameness and compassion rather than relying solely on psychological concepts and theory.