Do You Struggle With Feelings of Hopelessness?
Is an inner critic making you feel powerless or trapped? Perhaps you feel that nothing good will ever happen, or think that you’ll never learn to quiet the negative thoughts flooding your mind. Maybe it seems as though the people around you are leading perfect, fulfilling lives, while you alone continue to fail. Do you feel ashamed of your feelings, or blame yourself for your lack of motivation? Overall, you might believe that, if you could only get a break and overcome your negative self-talk, you could succeed in finding inner calm.
Dealing with depression is an exhausting, isolating experience. You might stay in bed for long periods of time, withdrawing or detaching from others and even yourself. But, you still might find it difficult to sleep, or you might frequently wake up wrapped in a wet blanket of dread. Maybe connecting with others is difficult, leaving you feeling lonely even in a crowd or a house full of people. At work, you might find yourself unable to perform even the simplest tasks and feel you constantly afraid that you’re going to lose your job. In severe cases, you might consider yourself “a freak” who can’t do anything right or make meaningful connections with family members and friends. You might often feel the overwhelming need to hide.
Depression Is Common Across the Globe
While the pain or numbness you’re experiencing can make it feel as though you’re the only one dealing with depression, it’s actually one of the most common struggles for adults living across our rapidly changing world. In fact, the World Health Organization estimates that over 300 million people around the globe suffer from some kind of depression disorder.
Trauma, especially childhood trauma, is one of the main causes of depression. When children experience trauma at an early age, such as divorce or verbal or physical abuse, they often internalize these experiences. And, when we face traumatic circumstances before we’ve matured, we can develop limiting belief systems based on ideas such as, “People who love me leave me,” “There’s something intrinsically wrong with me,” or “I’m not good enough to love.” Allowed to take hold and develop over time, these limiting belief systems are a major cause of depression.
While serious depression can feel truly hopeless, rest assured that help and relief is possible. With depression counselling, it’s possible to redefine your belief systems and rediscover hope and joy.
Depression Therapy Can Help You Find Peace Through Self-Compassion
Treatment for depression with a qualified professional can help you tap into and better understand the “operating system” that controls your subconscious thought patterns. By learning how this system influences your brain’s inner workings, you’ll also begin to understand how this system creates the emotions and limiting beliefs contributing to your depression. Over time, learning how to control these processes will also help you develop inner resilience and peace.
In our depression counselling sessions, I’ll provide a comfortable, safe and contained environment in which you can explore your inner critic. Together, we’ll emphasize changing your perspective and developing self-love, always ensuring that we approach your feelings with empathy and understanding. I’ll help you examine your habitual responses to situations that evoke depression symptoms and then teach you techniques that help change the kinds of thoughts and energy contributing to depression. Likewise, we’ll work toward changing the way you react to past trauma in current situations, digging beneath the depression on the surface and addressing with the unresolved pain lying beneath. By working with these deep layers or “parts” of yourself, we’ll explore alternative, neglected feelings and practice the art of self-compassion, rather than dwelling on negative thoughts.
Overall, my main goal is to “work myself out of a job,” meaning that I’ll aim to give you relief from your depression symptoms relatively quickly. In fact, my clients often comment on how quickly they are able to feel relief: “In a very short time,” says C.C. of Comox, British Columbia, “Kim helped me feel totally at ease… leading me through the sessions and helping me get back in touch with the ‘Part’ that I have been unable to accept. She is kind, gentle, supportive, very gifted and her love for the approach and its potential shines through her.”
Since 1995, I’ve been helping my clients confront their limiting beliefs and rediscover the vibrant “parts” that make them unique. With treatment for depression, you can overcome the hopelessness of self-hate and embrace the joy of self-compassion.
You might still have objections to depression counselling…
I’ve tried treatment in the past and nothing has worked. Why should I bother to try again?
Because therapy often requires vulnerability, it’s especially painful when it doesn’t work, and it’s understandable if you’re reluctant to try again. However, I specialize in working with “therapy skeptics,” and I’m especially adept at working with clients who have tried every alternative treatment for depression without success. For me, nothing is more amazing than watching a light bulb go on over a skeptic’s head, and I find nothing more empowering than helping my clients feel empowered. Though you might not feel like it, I believe there’s a pearl in every part of us that’s been pushed away, and I aim to help you reveal that pearl, no matter how deeply it might be buried.
Therapy is too expensive!
It’s true that therapy is an extra expense, and that can feel like a burden that’s best avoided. However, remember that mental and emotional well-being are important parts of your overall health. When weighing the cost of dealing with depression, I encourage you to consider what your future quality of life is worth. Considered in this context, counselling becomes a small investment with a huge payoff.
I don’t want to revisit my trauma.
Trauma can be painful to revisit, so I understand when clients don’t want to discuss it at length. Alternatively, you might think you’ve never experienced trauma and don’t see talking about it as an important part of overcoming your depression symptoms. With this in mind, I avoid dwelling on traumatic details, focusing instead on working through the personal beliefs resulting from past pain. Overall, trauma is an individual experience, and I’m careful to avoid traumatic triggers.
Are you ready to replace negative thought patterns with self-compassion? Email me today to set up a free 20-minute phone consultation. I’ll answer any questions you might have about depression counselling in Comox, BC.