Are You Tired Of Feeling Trapped and Exhausted?
Does it sometimes seem as though you’re trapped in a room without a door, forever pacing back and forth and ruminating on the same, worrisome thoughts? Maybe your worries cause physical anxiety symptoms, such as heart palpitations or tightness in your chest, and you wonder if you are experiencing a medical crisis or a panic attack. As you think about everything that might go wrong in the future, you might be struggling with debilitating fears of failure or abandonment that make it almost impossible to pursue your goals or engage in healthy relationships. Do you wish you could understand your worries enough to overcome them and find peace?
Dealing with anxiety can be an exhausting, overwhelming experience. Racing thoughts that obsess over worst-case scenarios might wake you up in the middle of the night, leaving you tired and unfocused during the rest of the day. Similarly, a judgmental inner critic might constantly overwhelm you, leading you to over-analyze your interactions with others, focus on the ways you feel you come up short and ultimately withdraw from friends and family altogether. Overall, it might seem as though worry and fear are negatively impacting all areas of your life, and you wonder if there is another, freer way to live.
Anxiety Is A Common Affliction Among Adults
Despite the fact that many who suffer from anxiety feel utterly alone, dealing with anxiety is relatively common for adults, especially for those living in Western societies. According to a study from the University of Queensland, just over 7 percent of people across the world suffer from anxiety, with roughly 10 percent of the populations of North America, Western Europe and New Zealand and Australia dealing with the issue.
Triggers for anxiety come in a variety of forms. Often, anxiety can stem from early attachment issues with a parent or primary caregiver. A parent may have been physically present but emotionally unavailable, for instance, or your familial bonds might have been shaken by divorce or separation. Additionally, traumatic experiences like sexual or verbal abuse can cause anxiety by resulting in upsetting memories or flashbacks, which in turn create apprehensive, “on-edge” feelings. And, since trauma is a highly individualized experience with aftereffects that can linger for years, it can be difficult to recognize. Overall, anxiety is often a response to pain from the past, and is an especially common byproduct of hurtful relationships.
Everyone experiences anxious thoughts from time to time, and occasional worries can motivate you to take care of yourself or loved ones. However, if obsessive fears are your normal state of being, rather than an exception, you could benefit from anxiety therapy with a qualified professional.
Anxiety Counselling Can Give You Tools To Reclaim Your Life
Often, anxiety is related to racing thoughts and pessimistic belief patterns, such as “All people who love me leave me,” “I’m not loveable/worthy” or “No one will ever listen to me.” Such beliefs are often grounded in past trauma and, while they’re undoubtedly strong and deeply distressing, they do not have to control your life. An experienced therapist can help you tap into your unconscious, create a roadmap to change anxiety symptoms and begin to live with greater freedom and ease.
My ultimate goal is to “work myself out of a job,” meaning that I aim to provide my clients with relief relatively quickly. During anxiety therapy sessions, I’ll immediately provide you with tools and exercises you can use as soon as you leave my office. These tools are based on the idea that our emotions are a kind of energy, and that we can learn to regulate the energy we expend when feeling particularly intense emotions. Overall, I’ll help you realize how much of your energy is used up dealing with anxiety so that you can gradually improve your ability to relax and engage with the people, opportunities and experiences that really matter to you.
Though I adapt my exercises depending on each client’s needs, all of my work is based in science and the logic of the brain’s functions. During our sessions, we’ll use methodologies that work with the parts of the brain responding to past trauma to understand where your anxious emotional responses are coming from. For example, we may discuss an anxiety-inducing experience from the past week and work on reducing the energy used to process such experiences. Overall, our goal will be to practice discerning present experiences from past trauma and begin to work past the anxious feelings this trauma produces. That way, you’ll no longer haveto respond to your surroundings with anxiety, and you’ll no longer be a victim of your environment. Instead, you can learn to approach each day with self-confidence and inner peace.
Since 1995, I’ve been careful to cultivate a safe, nonjudgmental environment and provide tools that can lead to both immediate relief and long-term healing. Often, living with anxiety can feel like trying to play a lullaby with bass drums, cymbals, a tuba and other unsuitable instruments. With anxiety therapy, you can become the orchestra conductor of your emotions, and by understanding how your anxiety symptoms work, you can let go of the cacophony of fear and create new, harmonic music. You can bring calm and balance into your life.
You might still have objections to anxiety treatment…
Talking about my anxiety won’t work.
It can be frustrating to try therapy and feel like it isn’t working, especially if you’re eager to go beyond simply talking about the issue. That’s why I tailor my sessions so that we don’t simply talk about your anxiety—we also explore concrete methods of overcoming it. In fact, I enjoy working with clients who have tried other solutions that haven’t worked, and I want to help clients who are hungry for change. We won’t simply talk about your racing thoughts. Instead, we will engage in exercises based in hard science and facts about the brain’s functioning. This approach gives you the instruction manual to the operating system of your mind, helping you understand the thought and behavioral patterns that govern your anxieties.
I don’t want to rehash the past and revisit my trauma.
Traumatic experiences are hard and painful to revisit, so it’s completely understandable if you don’t want to discuss trauma in-depth. Alternatively, you might doubt that you’ve ever experienced trauma and don’t see discussing it as an important part of therapy. That’s why I avoid dwelling on the details of traumatic experiences, focusing instead on working through the imprinted feelings and personal beliefs that resulted from past pain. Trauma is an individualized experience and reaction, and I’m careful to work with my clients in a way that avoids traumatic triggers and is respectful of their authentic experience.
Therapy is too expensive.
It’s true that therapy is an extra expense, and that can feel like a burden at times. However, therapy is also an investment in the future, and it’s an important step in developing self-compassion and understanding. These qualities are critical when it comes to connecting to others and fostering healthy relationships, so you owe it to yourself to invest in high quality anxiety therapy.
Are you ready to confront your negative personal beliefs and develop tools to manage your anxiety?
Email me today to set up a free 20-minute phone consultation.